3 ways to stop comparing yourself to others

January 12, 2017

Before I ever decided to make a blog and when I only had an interest of starting one, I would type in the Google search engine "Famous 2016 Bloggers" or "Top All Time Bloggers", I would see all these fashionista's with all this creative content and perfect quality pictures. I use to think there was absolutely no way in hell I was going to measure up to these beauties.

I thought I needed a personal photographer, along with the latest DSLR, the latest Gucci and Channel Slides to match my never ending amount of clothes that I didn't have! 

With a lot of research and encouragement from my boyfriend and good friends they motivated me to get out there and just do it! 

Well here I am...

Within the last two months of having my own blog, I have fallen deeply in love with it. Its more than just a project, its like the baby I never had. It's one of the thing's I look forward to coming home to when I have a fresh idea. 

If I didn't have the supportive foundation that I had to start my blog, or more importantly, to actually put it out there (that's another story), I would still be on Google comparing myself to other successful blogger's.

Aside from the help of an awesome support group, here's a few things I did to put an end to constantly comparing myself to others.

1. Turned A Negative into a Positive
Google was not my friend two months ago when my blog was just a thought. It was a weapon to use against myself to convince myself that I wasn't good enough to start a blog. I use to go through everyone's blog and give myself one hundred and one reasons why I shouldn't get started. The poison of comparing myself to other's was crippling me from creating creative content. 

After an up and down roller coaster of emotions, I began to flip the script and think how can I measure up to "Famous 2016 Blogger's" or the "Top All Time Bloggers"? 

One thing I love about the bloggers that I found was that they shared their journey. They share with their reader's the In's and outs of blogging and what you should and should not do when getting started. 

I stopped comparing myself to them and started to learn from them. Don't get me wrong, I was still on their page every day, but this time with a new perspective. 

I took notes, learned from their mistakes and did my own personal research. That's when I knew the negative comparison's was over and that it was time to take action!

2. Eliminate it! 
If you can't seem to turn your negative into a positive, which I'm sure you can! Then get rid of it! You are doing more harm then good by staying up for hours at a time focusing on someone you think is better than you. Delete them, Block them or find a way to pull yourself a way from such toxin's. 

Don't let your nonconstructive self criticism turn into jealousy, anger and envy. It takes too much energy and precious time. 

Find a way to turn that extra time you have into doing something productive with your mind. Free your mind of someone else's idea's and find a way to let your unique capabilities flourish. 

We all have them. We just can't realize them by comparing our talent's to others. 

3. Trust your Own Struggle!
It was graduation season for college student's during the time I started my blog and I was going through a stage were I took a break from school because I was confused on which path I wanted to take. I wasn't where I wanted to be and everyone around me was excelling. I didn't know what to do and I felt stuck. 

I vented to my boyfriend for hours on how I wasn't where I was suppose to be and how I'm suppose to be graduating with my friends. After two hours of crying and pouting, he looked at me and simply said "Trust your struggle". 

I was irritated and annoyed because I had went on for hours talking about my life, expecting him to throw a pity party with me but instead I get a three word comeback. 

After I calmed down, I thought about that three word rebuttal every day since and that was over two months ago...

Trust your struggle! Your path is different from the ones around you. Your purpose is nothing similar to any of the 7.5 billion people on earth. You are you and no one can take that from you. Your talent may be similar to someone else's but it will never be the same! Stop comparing yourself and trying to be the next person that your focusing on. The only person you can be is yourself and that's the only person you should be focused on. 

We are always comparing the worst of ourselves to the best of other's, not realizing that our best may exceed theirs. 
The picture I used when I first announced I was starting my blog. 


  1. Thank you very much for writing this post!!! Reading this was such a motivation now there is always so much competition that is easy to become so negative. Asia your a very smart lady and wish you the best on your journey.
    Don't stop writing!!! Looking forward to your next post.

    1. Thanks Ana ! Im so happy that my post motivated you & of course there will always be competition but thats just an obstacle that will make us stronger in the end! Thanks for the support and positive feedback!


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